BDSM is a whole different world where people speak in their own formal and informal language, have rules and social norms, and create expectations based on everything from names to symbols you employ.As a sex educator and an active member in the BDSM community, I found most information floating around to be inaccurate and some even unhealthy. As a primer this guide will demystify the world of BDSM and present it in a straightforward and eas...

There are two foundational pillars of a BDSM relationship between a Dom and a sub: consent and trust. Everything else in the relationship – the fun, the love, the discipline, the eroticism, the tears and the journey – are all built on those standards. Both consent and trust require honest communication in order to thrive. The vast majority of that communication begins long before the training begins.In "Dom's Guide to Submi...

Submission can be described by a lot of words but “easy” isn’t one of them. Discovering and honoring your desire to submit takes courage, strength and passion. Learning to follow the lead and rhythm set by another, and stretching your limits to accommodate training and service can challenge and exhaust you.The discipline to hold your tongue, retrieve your paddle, or wait around endlessly while knot after knot is being tied as part of a bondage ritual drains your en...

Has your sex life become dull and repetitive?Whether you are a new couple, or have been married for 50 years, it can be difficult to maintain the level of fun and arousal in the bedroom that you would like. Too often, we approach sex as a serious matter, forgetting that it can be a wonderfully creative experience. We let the routine of our daily lives intrude upon the intimate time that we spend with our partner.If we aren’t careful...

The world is full of advice on how to charge, or re-charge, our sexual relationships, but nothing adds more of a jolt to a couple than when they say those three lovely words:“Let’s have anal.”Anal sex is a sensual and high-powered addition to your sexual repertoire. This form of sexuality is one of the most intimate personal connections a couple can have. Considered taboo by some modern societies, it is often elusive, and misunderstood....

You may think that every Master has a huge house filled with either gothic décor or fluffy white couches, and a ridiculously full selection of paddles, straps, whips, crops, restraints, sex toys, and bondage gear.Fortunately, you don’t have to pay a hundred dollars for a specialty flogger or purchase a wedge from Extreme Restraints for three hundred bucks in order to be a great Dom and provide your sub with hours of bondage, spanking and fun.Most of the thi...

In this advanced guide for Doms, we’re going to focus on becoming a “billionaire” type of Alpha Dom so that you can become more attractive to the subs you offer your services to. You are soon going to find out that money actually has nothing to do with the attraction the Dom builds with the sub. It’s all in personality, in posturing and in a certain way of thinking.We’re going to train you, Dom to Dom, how to activ...

Are you one of those people who want to spice up their love life with the addition of dirty talk, longing to hear certain words or phrases whispered, moaned, growled, or simply uttered but just plain don’t know how to get started?The first thing to understand is that dirty talk isn’t dirty. There’s nothing shameful or wrong about it.Men and women are hard-wired differently. Men like to hear, while women like to visualize, and that’s complet...

Are you having trouble coming up with scenes to try in your BDSM relationship? Do you feel silly reenacting movies or porn or just draw a blank when asked for suggestions? You have come to the right place!In "The BDSM Playbook," we’re going to review 51 scenes that you can try and adapt to your own lifestyle and routine. They are separated into categories of Beginners (sexual and nonsexual), Earning Trust, and

There are a number of reasons a woman may choose online submission. It’s a good way to ease into the community by making friends and observing other people at a safe distance. Creating an online persona allows women to keep their real names and identifiers private. This not only helps maintain physical safety but also gives her the freedom to talk about sexual fantasies and naughty ideas without fearing judgment from other people or consequences on the job...

Whether you have always dreamed about life in a collar or just discovered a desire to be sexually adventurous, there is a place for you in the fetish world of submission. The culture of kink, once thought to be limited to couples who wore leather pants and played slap-and-tickle in the bedroom, has grown into a varied and well defined umbrella for sexual identity.Because fetish culture, like all cultures, grows and changes with the people who practice it, there are...

Interested in BDSM and a kinky sex life? The problem is, that maybe you’re in a committed relationship and can’t just go out and find a sub or a Dom to play with. All this sexual revolution going on and you’re stuck in a vanilla relationship. Maybe you should have experimented with kink back when you were single, right?Wrong! If anything, being in a committed relationship is the BEST way to improve your sex lives and reach really exciting p...