The impulse to pull away when someone gets close isn't about wanting freedom-it's a desperate attempt tocontrol the inevitable pain of potential loss. Part of The Bonded Self, Florian Jarrell's insightful book exploreswhy even secure partners can trigger an anxious response, and how seemingly small requests for space becomecatastrophic alarms.When affection shifts from feeling safe to feeling vulnerable, everyday interactions are no longer neutralexc...