An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters.Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother—...

Come costruire relazioni forti e felici tra le generazioniLa nascita di un nipote è sempre motivo di grande felicità. Tuttavia, quando un figlio diventa a sua volta genitore, la struttura dell’intera famiglia subisce delle modifiche importanti. In questo contesto, potrebbero riemergere tensioni non sopite fra i genitori neononni e i figli neogenitori, nonché difficoltà nei rapporti con i generi. Ma la cosa importante è che al cuore di tre famiglie c’è una persona p...

Wat betekent het om grootouder te zijn in deze tijd? In Grootouderschap verkent psycholoog Terri Apter de unieke uitdagingen en kansen van deze levensfase. Van omgaan met veranderende familierollen tot het navigeren van spanningen met schoonfamilie en het bieden van steun tijdens scheidingen: dit boek biedt inzichten die relaties verdiepen en versterken. Apter biedt praktische handvatten, waarbij ze put uit internationaal onderzoek, persoonlijke ervaringen en casestudy's. Een onmisbare gid...

The Teen Interpreter is a generous roadmap for enjoying the most challenging, and rewarding, parenting years.Once children hit adolescence, it seems as if overnight “I love you” becomes “leave me alone,” and any question from a parent can be dismissed with one word: “fine.” But while they may not show it, teenagers rely on their parents’ curiosity, delight, and connection to guide them through this period of exuberant growth as they navigate complex change...

Terri Apter reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self.Do you know that praise is essential to the growth of a healthy brain? That experiences of praise and blame affect how long we live? That the conscious and unconscious judgments we engage in every day began as a crucial survival technique? Do you think people shouldn’t be judgmental? But, how judgmental are you, and how does this impact your ...

Understand what your teenage daughter really means—and learn to use your arguments to strengthen your bond with her.Mothers and teenage daughters argue more than any other child-parent pair—on average every two-and-a-half days. These quarrels, Terri Apter shows, are attempts to negotiate changes in a relationship that is valued by both mothers and daughters. A daughter often feels her mother doesn't know or understand her, and by fighting hopes to force her mother ...

"Parents and young adults alike should benefit from the advice in Apter's insightful book."—Washington PostWhat do young people at the threshold of adulthood really need and want? Why do so many responsible and motivated teenagers become young adults who are still dependent, financially and emotionally, on their parents? Why are many young people today so quick to leave childhood behind, but so slow to become adults? In this wise and compassionate book, Te...

“The best book on sisters, very important and beautifully written.”—Carol Gilligan, author of In a Different VoiceThis “substantial contribution to the literature on sibling relationships” (Library Journal) explores the intricacy, friction, and love in bonds between sisters. Relationships between women are often freighted with a rocky mix of emotions—devotion and disregard, affection and loathing, admiration and envy—leading to anguish and confusi...

"The author of Altered Loves . . . now turns her analytical eye toward middle-aged women. The result is both lively and revealing." --New York Times Book ReviewIn this groundbreaking and insightful study Terri Apter traces womens midlife course, drawing on detailed interviews with women in their forties and fifties. Apter finds that women experience a renewed sense of themselves and see the second half of life as an opportunity for psychological g...

Breaking new ground in family psychology, an exploration of the intricacy, friction, and love in the bonds between in-laws.When we marry, we believe the bond is between only two individuals. Few of us realize the power that inlaws will exert over our lives. But the in-laws we acquire when we marry affect our quality of life—our marriage, family, personal comfort, and long-term well-being—for better or worse. What Do You Want From Me? takes a fresh look at the age-old probl...

A renowned social psychologist's clear-cut, thoughtful, and practical strategy for parents who want to promote self-confidence in their child.Raising confident, motivated, and caring children is a parent's greatest challenge. Drawing on her own extensive research on children and parents, Terri Apter has created a guide based on "emotional coaching"—learning to respond appropriately to a child's feelings—that helps parents raise children to solve problems, to be socially active and ...

Es probable que en algún momento u otro se haya planteado entender a los adolescentes e, incluso, haya deseado disponer de un manual para hacer frente a dicho reto. Este libro se presenta como una guía para disfrutar de los años de crianza más desafiantes y gratificantes. Una vez que los niños llegan a la adolescencia, parece que, de la noche a la mañana, el «te quiero» se convierte en «déjame en paz», y cualquier pregunta de los padres puede ser resuelta con solo una palabra: «bien». Pero...