“Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?What do you do when the one you love hurts you?Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask...

"Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book."* When Love Hurts can help answer your questions about whether you are experiencing abuse from a partner or unsure if your damaged relationship can be fixed, using exercises and resources to help you identify and address all forms of abuse including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and...

New, updated edition 2023! Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., CPC, drawing from 25+ years of experience, gives you ALL the little-known secret tactics that controllers and manipulators use but DON'T want you to know! She tells you what to say to the controller to get him off his position and onto yours. How to know the severity of his case, how to know if he can change, how to get "unhooked" and get him to surrender. Here's what you'll learn:What is Control and When Is It Destructive?The Dif...

You're in a romantic relationship. It started out as a whirlwind of attention and affection, but now you have a gnawing fear that something is terribly wrong.Or you were in a relationship that was verbally, emotionally, financially or even physically abusive. That person is gone now, but you still don't know how you fell into it, and you're scared it will happen again.Or someone you care about is hooked up with a partner who worries you. You can't understand how your friend...

New revised edition 2021! Lyn Kelley, Ph.D. has 25+ years experience as a licensed therapist and certified relationship coach who draws from her own experience and that of her clients to give you all the information you'll ever need to know about self-centered and narcissistic men. You'll learn how "bad" he is on a scale from 1–10. You'll know all the early warning signs, why you're attracted to him, how to respond to selfish behavior, the 11 questions you MUST ask up front, the 3 C's to w...

New, updated edition 2021. Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley tells you how to rate men on the "lying/cheating scale." She explains why men lie and cheat, how to know if he's lying or cheating, how to know if he can change and how to respond to it. She will help you understand antisocial personality, why it's so hard to leave a cheater, how to know if you should leave him, and how to know if he can change. Here's what you'll get:• Why women get hooked on lying, cheating men...

Developing a codependency to a partner who has a narcissistic or psychopathic personality will cause nothing but turmoil in our lives. We stay in the relationship, thinking that we can "fix" this person and love them out of their bad behavior, but the truth is that narcissists - just like sociopaths and psychopaths - can never be fixed...not with love, therapy, or any magic pill Our codependency and suffering fulfills the narcissist's pathological relationship agenda and makes them feel al...

New, updated version 2021. Therapist and Certified Relationship coach Dr. Lyn Kelley gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the "emotional unavailability scale." Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you. She will help you understand his psyche, how to know if you should stay or leave. Plus: The best 15 strategies to handle an emotionally unavailable ma...

The characteristics of a narcissistic personality and/or narcissistic partner are such that once we finally bridge a connection to our partner's behaviors, there's simply no denying that we've found the answer. In an instant, we recognize our story as identical to all the others and our partner as interchangeable with every narcissist and sociopath on the planet. But making the discovery that the person we love is a fake doesn't magically give us the ability to walk away or make the heartb...

Contact with a narcissist can be at once exhilarating and confusing, hurtful and seductive. It can make you feel like you are losing your mind, yet without an understanding of why you feel that way. Some narcissistic people, many in fact, seem quite normal, welcoming, even nice. But betrayal often follows, and so does hurt. This little ebook can be used to help you recognize the many ways narcissism looks and how it seduces in relationships, friendships and at work. Understanding the disea...

Of all the criminal types that inhabit our society, the psychopath is by far the most destructive, the most successful, and the least understood. For these reasons, any self-defense program must begin with a study of the most dangerous predator on the planet.

Being in a destructive relationship is life draining. It takes so much effort just to make it through the day that everything else takes a back seat. Making the wrong partner choice can suck the life right out of us taking us up and down an emotional roller coaster and playing havoc with our physical mental and spiritual health.If you have:Wanted to leave but don't know howTried to leave but can'tLeft but keep coming backAre waiting for the right time t...